Comments on: On Women Not Wanting Babies, Part I

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 03:32:47 +0000

Thank you so much for writing this piece. It is hard for me to come up with words as to why I personally don't want to have my own children. Not that I have to defend myself by any means.

I know this is more than a year late, but thank you.

By: Ana

Ana — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 04:06:59 +0000

Hey Katie. A very well written post. I definitely think you’ve hit the nail on the head by saying the decision to have a kid is very difficult and a private one that ought to be between you & your s/o. Having a kid involves a lot of sacrifice, time and energy (particularly on the part of the woman) and is not a decision to be entered lightly. I mean, at the end of the day, we’re talking about being responsible for another living thing chrissake! If you have a kid because it’s the thing you ought to do when you’re married, or out of vanity or because your mom is hassling you for grandkids, you’re doing it for the wrong reason. On the other hand, if you and your husband or partner take some time (years in most cases) to decide if kids are right for you, you’re doing it for the right reasons. And, I must say, the fact that you and your husband are in this latter category tells me you are going to be a great mom. Good luck with the remainder of the pregnancy:)

By: Andrea MB

Andrea MB — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 19:52:42 +0000

Hey. Well written, my friend. I especially enjoyed how you stated this: “If she doesn’t now, she will, because she doesn’t understand herself as well as thousands of years of stereotypes do.” And VERY solid point about men still making more money statistically than women.

By: Raina

Raina — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 19:33:21 +0000

From the perspective of a single ….I used to not want children very strongly. Now I’m completely the opposite. I want a large family! Well three kids seems ideal but I’m not set on anything in life. I feel the pressure too, especially with the big 35 only years away. Even my lady parts Dr tells me I better get crackin. It has an influence I’m sure as a single person hoping to find someone. I try to be laid back about it but sometimes it’s hard with so many friends getting married and starting families. It’s not even that I’m jealous or that anyone actually says anything to me as that it’s just a social feeling of pressure to do it before I become a bad mother that gives birth to mutant babies or something, honestly the pressure given seems way stronger than the chances of things going wrong warrant. I’m very happy for my friend’s happiness though and not bitter at all. But I think it does affect how I approach dating, and how others might approach me. I secretly want a career and children. I would be happy with a house husband even but my career hasn’t even started yet so shrug. I do love to read your adventures. wow my post is really disorganized.

By: Marielli

Marielli — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 11:41:26 +0000

Hi Katie,

Very nice post. Justin and & have been together since Toledo…. ( a decade!) and we’re feeling the “baby pressure” everyday from all sources. The funny part is people does not understand it will happen whenever we decide, not them, and we are pretty vocal about it (their faces are priceless).

By: krupa

krupa — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 05:27:58 +0000

I enjoyed this post …it has been a common topic I discuss with my girl friends!

By: Katie

Katie — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 04:17:40 +0000

I eagerly await Part II…