Comments on: On Women Not Wanting Babies, Part II http://katiebonn.com/2010/02/19/on-women-not-wanting-babies-part-ii/ A whole lot of insignificant prattle Tue, 18 Oct 2011 14:27:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Mary http://katiebonn.com/2010/02/19/on-women-not-wanting-babies-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-141847 Mary Mon, 07 Jun 2010 20:37:40 +0000 http://katiebonn.com/?p=227#comment-141847 <p>I'm 25 and haven't really started feeling the pressure for this yet, I recently have had a lot of people asking me about marriage but there have been a few comments about children (like when I was shown maternity leave forms on the first day of my current job or when a very intense middle aged lady from work took me aside and told me not to leave it too late or I'll be sorry!). I see my slightly older friends are really feeling the pressure especially when they haven't met someone that treats them well and it doesn't help that their younger sisters are having babies. I'm very sure don't want to have children yet if ever but the article shows that it will be completely ok for me to change my mind either way and I shouldn't have to answer to anyone. I will ignore these extremely rude people by being quite firm but polite that it's a very personal decision :)</p> I’m 25 and haven’t really started feeling the pressure for this yet, I recently have had a lot of people asking me about marriage but there have been a few comments about children (like when I was shown maternity leave forms on the first day of my current job or when a very intense middle aged lady from work took me aside and told me not to leave it too late or I’ll be sorry!). I see my slightly older friends are really feeling the pressure especially when they haven’t met someone that treats them well and it doesn’t help that their younger sisters are having babies. I’m very sure don’t want to have children yet if ever but the article shows that it will be completely ok for me to change my mind either way and I shouldn’t have to answer to anyone. I will ignore these extremely rude people by being quite firm but polite that it’s a very personal decision :)

]]> By: Gee http://katiebonn.com/2010/02/19/on-women-not-wanting-babies-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-141631 Gee Mon, 05 Apr 2010 04:52:13 +0000 http://katiebonn.com/?p=227#comment-141631 <p>Thanks so much for these posts. I literally just Googled "women might not want babies" and here came your two posts. I just had a huge fight with my boyfriend - of 7 months. And like all our arguments it always ends back at the fact that i don't know if i want to have babies. I might, I might not. But I'm pretty sure I tell people I have no idea because it irritates me that its assumed 99% of the time that if you are packing ovaries you must want babies. I hate that its assume. I feel you on the being stubborn out of spite for assumed wanting of the parenthood. </p> <p>I'm only 26, I don't want to make this decision now. And for a lot of women it seems like an automatic. They just know. Which is awesome. I'd kind prefer knowing so I could end this argument. For some reason girls get this baby alarm thing that starts going off around college - people tell me its supposed to go of at 35 but I'm pretty sure all these chicken hormones we eat have jump started it. And if you miss the alarm you are fucked. </p> <p>My boss is pregnant and when people see her they turn to me and suggest I'm next. Pretty sure this pressure isn't applied to men. And its also not acceptable to ask men about their reproductive organs in public. Just us ladies. Maybe when they get married, other baby totting parents ask, in-laws ask. But do men get hounded about having babies at work? At the deli? On the frickin bus? At the banks? Pretty sure not.</p> <p>Sorry for the rant & thanks for the posts. My tears have dried. I'm not going to give in until I know what I want.</p> Thanks so much for these posts. I literally just Googled “women might not want babies” and here came your two posts. I just had a huge fight with my boyfriend – of 7 months. And like all our arguments it always ends back at the fact that i don’t know if i want to have babies. I might, I might not. But I’m pretty sure I tell people I have no idea because it irritates me that its assumed 99% of the time that if you are packing ovaries you must want babies. I hate that its assume. I feel you on the being stubborn out of spite for assumed wanting of the parenthood.

I’m only 26, I don’t want to make this decision now. And for a lot of women it seems like an automatic. They just know. Which is awesome. I’d kind prefer knowing so I could end this argument. For some reason girls get this baby alarm thing that starts going off around college – people tell me its supposed to go of at 35 but I’m pretty sure all these chicken hormones we eat have jump started it. And if you miss the alarm you are fucked.

My boss is pregnant and when people see her they turn to me and suggest I’m next. Pretty sure this pressure isn’t applied to men. And its also not acceptable to ask men about their reproductive organs in public. Just us ladies. Maybe when they get married, other baby totting parents ask, in-laws ask. But do men get hounded about having babies at work? At the deli? On the frickin bus? At the banks? Pretty sure not.

Sorry for the rant & thanks for the posts. My tears have dried. I’m not going to give in until I know what I want.

]]> By: Andrea MB http://katiebonn.com/2010/02/19/on-women-not-wanting-babies-part-ii/comment-page-1/#comment-141464 Andrea MB Mon, 22 Feb 2010 19:55:50 +0000 http://katiebonn.com/?p=227#comment-141464 <p>LIKE!</p> LIKE!

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